Issue with baby name?

My husband and I are expecting our first baby together. We decided we wanted to name him Charlie or Charles Ever. My mother-in-law hates it because there was a family friend that died named Ever that lived a very rough life and she doesn't want to put that "vibe" on her 1st grandson. Is it worth changing your idea because of what family might say? I don't want to hear that Charlie isn't a good name though, we like it and that's final.

Issue with baby name?
Nobody liked the name we gave our son but that didn't stop us.You name him what you want to name him and if you are really that concerned about the "vibes" the name has take a look at this site.


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Reply:I had the same issue with the boys name we chose for our third child. We chose Mitchell and my mum hated it cos my brother had a girlfriend about 8 years ago with a son named Mitchell.


We decided to keep the name because we decided mum had an issue with the girlfriend not the baby.


However I can see your mother-in-laws point. I personally don't like the name Ever anyway.


You could try changing it too something that sounds similar so you still get the flow.


How about Charles/Charlie Evan.


In the end it is your baby and you have to go with what makes you happy and other people need to get over it
Reply:Listen to the grandmother. She was being honest with you, as to her feelings.


Don't do anything that would cause her to withhold herself from your child. Your child deserves the very best attention from the grandparents loving on him.





This is the very reason why 2 of my children's names were legally changed. After their abusive father left, there was much sadness and resentment through our family.





My son was named for his father - he asked if we could remove that name and replace it with something else....he did.





My daughter's name was chosen by her father. She even looked like him. My resentment for that man welled up inside me to the point that I would cringe and not be able to touch my baby girl whenever I heard her name spoken. I changed her name, and it became much easier for me to accept this child with the name I had given her.





Wisest thing we did for the kids.
Reply:I' love the name Charlie Ever. Like everyone says...you have to name your baby what you like, not what other people think. It's only a middle name...if it was his first name...I might reconsider. My mom always was standoffish because my brother named his daughter Sophie and she hated that name. It seems weird someone would not like a child based on a name, but for some people, they can't seem to get over it.





Choose the name that chooses you. You will know for sure once he is born. I always like to think babies name themselves once they are born.





Best wishes!!!
Reply:I like Charles but don't like the nickname Charlie. As for Ever, why did you choose the name? Does it have a special meaning for you? If so, then go for it.





Another reason why you shouldn't discuss your final name with friends or family members. To prevent arguements, it's always best to just say that you haven't decided yet.
Reply:You should name him what ever you want. No matter what name you pick someone will always have an issue with it..because they knew someone with that name that they didn't like, I went through the same thing and that's why I hated telling anyone names I had in mind. But if you must change it, how about Charlie Everett? But you should go with what you want.
Reply:Charlie is a great name, but Ever isn't so great. That's not really the issue here though. Your mother-in-law hates the name because it reminds her of a very sad time in her life. Are you sure you want to just go ahead and ignore those feelings? Maybe you could call him something similar like Charlie Evan instead? That's nice. :-)
Reply:I am in this same situation. We were seriously considering Vincent Sebastian and both our families hate it for multiple reasons. It's what we like and what we want to use though. I think you just have to be strong and stand your ground. This is your child and your decision. Don't let other people influence you.





BTW I do think it is a very nice name. Congrats and good luck!
Reply:i think that the name is great...but the ultimate choice is yours and your husband eventhough she is your mother in law you guys are a family and need to make decision with each other and not let other family change your mind
Reply:Charlie is lovely.


and without knowing your family or reading abot your mother-in-law, i really dislike the name Ever.


i dont really see it as a name.
Reply:well if your family is superstitious then yes i would change middle name how about


Charlie/Charles Evan and if i can say name him Charlie it is very cute
Reply:He is your child. Yeah, she might not like it but it is you and your husbands child. And you can name it whatever you feel like naming him.
Reply:WHen naming your baby you can't please everyone, especially your in-laws. Go with what you like. I feel they had their chance to name their children now it's your turn to name yours.
Reply:it's not worth it, name the kid whatever you want. it's your kid not hers.she'll just have to learn to get over it
Reply:i don't have any baby's but when you bring up baby names someone always has something bad to say. if you like that name go for it its your child
Reply:I don't think you should change it. Just tell her it has nothng to do with that.
Reply:Name him Charlie, it's not related to Ever.
Reply:Bad vibe or not I would name your child what you want
Reply:And this is why I do not share my names with family. I love Charles, nn Charlie.
Reply:because of 'vibes'? someone will always have something bad to say about any name you choose. get a backbone.
Reply:well i recomment this dont ask some one like this questions i mean its up to u
Reply:name your kid what you want, your son will out-live your mother in law.